The Terror of Intimacy

One of the most important aspects of married life is intimacy. It is a sacred place, which is only possible for two. It is a place full of magic, of desire, of fusion.

However, for many people, is a place that they are terrified, they're afraid, do not know how to get or how to get out there, and that, of necessity, disrupts the life together.

Fear or terror come from a failure to give full opportunity to another. Some couples are afraid to be alone, therefore, seek outside distractions to "give back to privacy" looking for friends, drink, watch television, evade deep talks, and that's one way to avoid being in the privacy with the couple.

Fears in general are not aware, but instead, are hidden and can only be seen through the actions of the couple's emotional states that are cohabiting, and always have its base on children's learning, for parental models and couples who taught or showed.

Unable to show us how we are with all the spontaneity, and having to pretend, to live a life on the defensive, violent, indifferent, are some of the defenses to this shared intimacy.

The most delightful experiences happen in the intimacy with your partner, but also the most violent, that perhaps, is one of the important points in which the couple lives. Moreover if it is narcissistic love, also loves dependent or aggressive.

Following the example of love intimacy disrupted lives in a vacuum, a hole, a place that has no room for two. The terror of intimacy is an intense fear of not being able to be with the other and not allow intimacy to grow and become a safe place for both. When there is fear of intimacy usually experienced great stress and wear on the couple or indifference, boredom and loneliness.

Intimacy is built with the deal, over time, with confidence, but have a deep terror into this space of the couple, the couple is condemned to suffering, exhaustion, confusion and a lot of pain ... If you Interested in learning more about these topics you can access our site

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